How the end began.....

"GRACE"
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   I just finished writing a heart purging post, and every word was lost in Internet space.   I guess I should not have written as many words.  I am writing to document and sort feelings.
   Last April, I was going along in life (with it's trials) unwittingly. The ignorant wife, waiting until her husband returned home late at night. He worked so hard. He was terribly stressed. My heart hurt for him. Little did I know, his heart was being soothed.  It is a long, long, ugly story. Many awful details. I think I will start here and sort along the way. From April until June was a time of devastating discovery for me. This woman (photo borrowed from PUBLIC web. site Facebook, Terms of use are disclosed) Is "Grace". Her American alias. Interesting choice. She is also known as *B********-Benjapoon (could be her given name?)    ^-^  She is Thai. She is about 53. She is a mother, soon to be grandmother, business owner (Pretty Tanning and Bodyworks), has been married, I believe has been re-married for "residency" reasons, and has willingly, forcefully insinuated herself in my life.
I never knew those strip mall, dark business' that had operating hours from early morning til late at night (most for 12 hours) 7 days a week were fronts for illegal activities. I wondered often how they could stay in business? There are so many.  When I uncovered my husbands 'other life' last April, he denied the obvious.  I began to do a little Private Investigation work. Not difficult in the age of Google
   This blog may become my way of sorting anguish, feelings of betrayal, sense of danger, fear, sorrow...
"Grace" and her counterparts "Julie", "Vanny","Cathy" (Pinky, Jasmine... et.al.) Have used their 'skills' and the net result is the end of my 27 year marriage, a messy, expensive divorce, broken hearts.
  In my quest for truth and answers, I discovered that this 'culture' of sex shops, or massage parlors, is a fungus spreading throughout our country. I found explicit, descriptive information verifying the lengths these operators go to with cultivating their new found riches. Cash. Cash is key in operating the business. There is a fee established (some offer early bird specials, coupons for $10 off) of $30,$40 hr. They use explicit, sexual inuendo in their public advertisements(see Craigslist, any town, under "Therapeutic Services"massage or go to  Erotic wfm). They have more explicit sites that spell out the "DIRTY DETAILS" (see Erotic M.P.com) with names, breast size, bottom size, type of bikini wax, age, appearance. Hobbyists, VIPs, go often in search of Nirvana, many love to brag and write reviews (I have verified details and find the reviews are accurate). After the initial fee is handed to the 'operator'-nice word for mamasan which is the most used term, the individual massage worker and her male client work out the $$$=service  details. Some business' are not in compliance with license' or certificates.   I found printed fliers at home for local neighborhood operations and checked the reviews. In the reviews, I saw unsafe sex practices, outcall services=prostitution, signs of  human trafficking , money laundering (do they claim all of this cash income on their income taxes?). I saw evidence of 'don't ask, don't tell' when I attempted to report this to Law Enforcement about specific operations. Many of them near neighborhoods and schools. I also believe some deal in drug activity and gambling.
  The customer, such as my husband, knows the specific signals, words, gestures that will achieve a certain result. 
   In my husbands case, his girlfriend probably picked him as a mark or target in the beginning. They look for big tippers and he is.  (Some tips average $100.00 for the extra service).
It seems in "Grace's" establishment, her 'role' (other than communicating with my husband, arranging dates) is to run the 'store'. She collects the initial fee and the tips are given  upon completion with the girl.  A bonus cold bottle of water and a peck on the cheek.
  Grace did have some reviews of her own (not many) and in them the description was not flattering, but said she gives excellent massages, will give that 'happy ending' and continue with a massage. Others who are reviewed allow more contact. Some younger girls seem squeemish according to reviewers.  At Graces' 'store', it is fairly standard for a basic Happy Ending with a massage (meaning the man is stimulated to sexual climax through manipulation or oral means).  Other places seem to go far into the other direction being strictly for sex and having no ability to offer a therapeutic massage.
  My husband prefered Grace, but dated all of them (in terms of going dancing, to karaoke, parties, taking one on a lovely motorcycle ride). Once while I was dancing with him at a work function, the whole giddy group broke into my dance. He had me sit down so he could 'take care of them'. Grace is special, it seems. She calls him Hunka, he calls her Spider. She has had very "Romantic" night swims in my pool with him, at the home we shared until June. He meets her often, drives her places, they eat meals, go dancing, he uses very 'gross' language in little notes to her, she says he has her heart, he says she fell in love with him.
   I ask 'how does that happen?'
   When she has a crisis like a fender bender, she goes to him, or sends him the ultrasound photo of her unborn grandchild.  I accidently overheard a possessive voice message from her (the volume was up). I asked him about it. The elaborate lies began. The Private Eye work began. He wasn't cautious. She didn't care.
I don't know her motives... I don't know his. I know the result.  This is a long story yet to be finished. There is much more to say.
I wanted somehow to tell those (maybe only a few) people who do not know about this epidemic of crime. I was content and supportive when my husband would call at the end of a long day and say 'I'm tired, I'm beat, I'm going to go get a two hour massage'       I never dreamed, never could imagine how devastating this would be.
 I know this is largely criminal and the operators do not want to lose their fortune.  In terms of the above mentioned business, I honestly found that they have provided a limited service (Happy Ending) where others in my former community had scandalous practices.  The health risks are huge. I personally resent the probable Tax evasion... in addition to destroying my family, and others. I question the immigration status for these people. 
I am looking for a happy ending...    and that would include the exposure of this vile corruption.